June 17, 2014

Zech. 4:6; Eccl. 3:11

I was chatting with a new friend recently. Like myself, she is a Believer, social, attractive and successful in her career ventures. Like myself, she is single but no longer a “20 or 30 something”. The conversation soon turned to relationships. As we continued the chat she made mention that she had decided to change her behavior in order to open the door for more men to come into her life. We discussed online dating sites, making herself more attractive, being more outgoing and other reasonable ways in order to draw more men into her social world. None of the things we chatted about were wrong but as we continued our talk something seemed to be missing.
It suddenly occurred to me that what was missing from the conversation. There was no mention of how Jesus played into her single life as a woman who is looking for male friendship and ultimately, her life mate. The fact that Jesus can and often does, work in the lives of those who love Him to bring good people into our lives was missing from her story.
Online social networks, church single groups, various support groups and making yourself more approachable are all great resources but outside of the Lord’s leading and guidance they will only lead to disappointment, wrong relationships and more loneliness. The harsh truth is that so many people, both in and outside, the church lead very lonely lives. This can be especially painful in the area of man/women relationships.
Sometimes it seems we forget that Jesus can and many times does work in our lives to bring just the right people into our lives at just the right time…if we will trust Him to do so. (Isa.30:18… “For the Lord is a God of justice; blessed are all those who wait for Him.”)
Divine Relationships are like choosing the right foods for our bodies. If we eat the right foods we edify our bodies toward health and vibrancy. Relationships that Jesus puts us into are “good food” for our soul and spirit.

I am not saying that we should not do our part to make connections happen in our daily lives but just keep in mind that He is the author of all that is good in our lives, including connections, and really desires to bring about abundant blessings and opportunities in each life that loves Him IF we will partner with Him, not lean on our own understanding of how to get people into our lives and then be willing to wait on His timing. I have seen this happen in my life numerous times. (Prov. 3:5-7)
Over the years Jesus has brought many people into my life. Besides my family members, He has brought: Spiritual sons and daughters, key business connections, wonderful ministry connections and wonderful friendships. One dear friend, Thomas Devick, comes to mind when I think of divine connections and supernatural ways Jesus both puts us and keeps us in relationships by His design.

Putting those that love Him in places that are a blessing and that give Him glory is our Lord’s specialty! Relationships are places. He is just waiting for us to acknowledge Him, partner with Him in prayer, and watch Him open up places for us that we could never have worked out, including and especially in the area of our relationships with others. (John 14:1-3)
Good things really do come to those who will wait, trust, pray and believe on the One who always brings more than we can imagine or think. Including Relationships.

“You are not responsible for figuring out how to pull off God’s vision for your life. You are responsible to do what you know to do, what you can do. And then you must wait.” From the book, ‘Visioneering’ by Andy Stanley.


Venetia Carpenter
Ecclesia Int’l Ministries


  1. LaPortia Newsome Says:

    Wonderful article! Love the transparency of it as well. Cant wait for the book to be released to share with others. God bless!

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